No Two People Are “Meant” To Be Together!

This is BS and a fairy tale!

Of all the relationships I have been in, there have been three that lasted over at least 2 years. In all three relationships, I felt something special with them, respectively. I mean, obviously, because if you spend that much time with somebody, it’s evident that you have a connection or else you would have never spent all that time with them in the first place.

In all three of the relationships I mentioned, I felt like (at one point or another) a future was ensured. I really hurt one of the guys and I’ve really regretted doing it ever since, because he was a great catch and has went on to do amazing things in his life (I have him added on Facebook). I made some bad choices based on trying to make another person in my life happy and trying to acquire their approval so much so that I sacrificed my relationship with him in the process. My relationship with him was virtually perfect and flawless before I messed things up. I believe he and I could have had an incredible life together.

Things just didn’t work out with the two other guys, but they were great, too. I will always have a love for all three of them, because like I just said, if you spend that much time with somebody and share a love that lasts that long, you will feel it in you forever.

However, I don’t believe in this idea that two people are simply “meant” to be together!

I could say that about all three of the guys I just mentioned, especially the one I hurt!

That fable assumes our fate is predestined, which is BS! Any decision we make, anywhere, before a given situation develops can completely alter that situation as can any decision another person makes or any development we react to.

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I Don’t Know What to Call This

On this day last year, I loved you.
I loved you so much.

But I wasn’t here.

I didn’t even exist.

I’ve burnt myself to the ground so many times and sifted through the remnants and rebuilt with what I’ve found. I am the pile of limbs that sold her soul to the devil for 27 years of everything.

And still I manage to be everything I’d rather not be.

I stopped loving so many people that I don’t know who this is talking to. I don’t know who you are. Perhaps that was the problem; perhaps that is why like frost on a window we parted ways with the morning sun.

I just need someone who, when I wearily start to prise off my fingernails, will just hold me. Will tell me that I don’t need to deconstruct myself. That they’ve got me, no matter how sharp my edges are. That they’ve got me.

Today, I Logged Into MySpace for the First Time in Years

I thought I would have forgotten my email and password by now, but nope, I remembered them. I expected to be hit by a flashback of memories when I logged into MySpace, but instead I saw how everything was wiped out.

I made my MySpace account sometime in 2004, and everything. All comments and all the messages. Gone.

Kinda sad, really. It’s like missing history. I feel like I should have saved some of the old messages, perhaps copy and pasted them to Wordpad or something. I dislike how everything was deleted.

First world problems? I feel like it’s so tragic that I can’t just go back and read old messages from over the years since they are all gone now. Ugh. Even though I never cared to log in and read them before, it bothers me that I can’t do it now!

MySpace, why did you wipe out everyone’s message and comment history?!

The Real Value of a Fragrance

Is fragrance collecting an expensive waste of money?

First of all, fragrances are, in fact, a luxury. We could all live perfectly normal functional (albeit more dull) lives without them, but they are luxuries.

Those who think fragrances are expensive haven’t ever looked into upgrading cars, computer upgrading, trading cards, gun-owning, motorcycling, etc. And fragrances almost always have guaranteed scarcity, which means 1ml of anything will be worth the same in 10 years as it is now (if not more due to reformulation). How many hobbies can you name where value is retained? Even silver and gold have spikes every now and then.

But I look at some of the same people who would criticize someone for spending $1000 on 20 fragrances, and see that, they in a sense, “waste money” too.

There are plenty of people who celebrate Easter and Christmas with $200 family dinners at fancy restaurants. And it all food decomposes into the same thing in the end.

There are people who spend $1000 on a one-week cruise or vacation (hell, there are people who spend $3000+ on that). And that’s perfectly acceptable. But when you buy a couple of fragrances, that’s somehow waste of money.

Why would I spend $1000 on something that will only last a week? One week later you’ll be back at work and that money would have practically vanished. Me, I’ll be able to enjoy what I purchased for 5-10 years.

And that’s the value that fragrances have. They last 5-10 years (at the very least) if you take care of them. And if I wanted, at any time, I could sell my entire collection for almost all that I paid for it.

There isn’t a whole lot that you can purchase which will still remain usable or relevant in 10 years.

The point is no luxury is really better than any other luxury. All that matters is that you are happy. If you have the money, spend it on what you enjoy. If you don’t, then be more conservative.

But you can’t compare the cost of a fragrance to the cost of a vacation, they work on very different levels. Apples and Oranges.

I have trips that stand in my memory as very significant, I wouldn’t trade them for anything still, even though they are over. I don’t want that money back, it wasn’t a waste.

But it is a luxury, no one needs even one bottle. The only value will be to yourself, as with any hobby. Other people can’t put a value on someone else’s interests. My dad asks me all the time “are you still wasting money on all that perfume?” I have to politely say “no, I’ve never wasted any money on any of my fragrances.” I can’t counter him with anything though, they aren’t the collecting type. Unless you count my Dad’s continued desire to take college classes even though he’s retired now, he collects knowledge. I would call that a waste of time, but that’s for myself, not him.

One thing is certain, depending on how deep you get into fragrance collection, it has the option of being very VERY expensive.

But, you can’t put a price on memories. Especially holidays.

Attractive and Fat? No.

See here.
attractive and fatNot that I agree with the shithead that is the Abercrombie CEO Mike Jeffries, but this response is a little overboard, no? I really don’t understand why people think it’s okay to promote obesity.

My issue with what he said comes from a mom’s perspective. I don’t want my daughter to have to worry about if she’s “cool enough” to wear certain clothes. If he wants to limit the size of the clothes his company makes, that’s fine. I couldn’t care less. But telling kids that they’re not cool enough is wrong.

On the other hand, I don’t want my daughter to see these pictures and think it’s okay to be obese. Just as wrong, in my opinion. Healthy body image is one thing. Being unhealthy is another.

Judge People By Their Actions, Not Their Words

A common mistake we all should learn to catch ourselves making is listening to someone’s words and forgetting what their true intent really is. It’s like, if someone tells you that they value you as a part of their lives and tell you that they will always be there for you if you ever need them, what kind of natural feeling do you have when, by the next day, they act like you don’t even exist? Disgust for that person since they’ve proven themselves to be liars! So, listen to a person’s words, but don’t take them as face value if their actions contradict the crap they say.

It’s like, if you tell me you have no desire to be in a relationship and that you are happy without one, then by the next week you are in a relationship with some random minx, then why did you bother saying otherwise in the first place? Be true with your intents.

If someone is constantly lying to you and hurting you without remorse, it’s only better for you to tell them to fuck right off and out of your life.

If you tell me that you are a “crazy, bad person” and portray yourself verbally as someone who’s deranged, don’t get into a relationship and procreate! Why should a person that calls themselves something like that be allowed to procreate? And people wonder why the world is in the shape that it’s in when idiots (liars) are having children…….

It would be a much better place to live if liars’ pants really caught on fire. 🙂

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Eventually, karma always comes back to haunt you if you’ve wronged somebody that you shouldn’t have.

Pondering Hate

I think when it comes to hating people – once you’ve got past the initial and slightly perverse horror of admitting you are capable of hatred – we’re all flawed. When you hate someone, you’re engaged in a battle with them. You might be battling for something specific, perhaps being able to walk away with a victory in an argument tucked under your belt. Sometimes it’s more general – you want, need, feel entitled to be happier than them. Always.

I think it’s bullshit. Hate is bullshit. To expect a person to always occupy a slightly lower position than you in the scale of emotional fulfilment, to rejoice when they suffer and curse when they’re ecstatic, it’s a never ending tyrant. And it’s never going to happen the way you wish. You’re going to get on with your life and they with theirs, you are going to experience pain and happiness that they will never be aware of, and they the same. That is life. And life will take you away from the person you hate.

In the long run, it will affect you more than it will ever affect them. So smile at them. Make sure your thoughts about how they have a crooked nose or an annoying laugh never graduate into poison dart insults, go home, do something that makes you happy and forget them.

Some Food For Thought on Liars

So many people take for granted what this girl would love!

Just stating the obvious or what should be; if someone in your life that you love is a liar and you call them out on it and they don’t care, and their lying is destructive to your life, why should you really keep them involved in your life if there are no benefits to having them around? Don’t try to explain truths to them! And don’t write them a letter exposing facts and truths! They won’t listen nor will they read it! Liars don’t value truths! Liars are selfish and they simply don’t care if their lying is hurting someone that loves them.

Conversely, if you have or had someone in your life that unquestionably loves (or loved) you with every bit of themselves, why the fuck would you cut them out of your life completely in favor of someone that’s inferior!!?? Are you fucking stupid?! Don’t take advantage of someone that loves you more than anyone else on the planet ever will, because you will just fuck them up as well as their trust forever. I hate selfishness!!

Grr!!!! Makes me do this!

Grr!!!! Makes me do this!